Because 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually molested by their 18th birthday, I am committed to finding solutions to educate our children, our parents, our churches, our communities, our judges, our medical professionals, and the list goes on, about the facts of CSA. There is not ONE easy ‘quick fix’ to prevent child sexual abuse. This epidemic will require concentrated collaboration between us all, and a multidisciplinary approach toward solutions.
I can’t think of a better cause to focus on, can you?
A CONTRACT OF LOVE ©
Between You and Your Child
RENEW IT EVERY YEAR
Because I love you and want to protect you from harm, I need to tell you these facts:
- I recognize that I do not know what is in the minds of others.
- I understand that I cannot be with you 24 hours a day, every day of your life.
- I understand that I will never know all that happens in your life.
- Therefore, I must trust you to tell me if someone harms you.
Out of love, I ask you to enter into this contract with me.
I, _____________________________ (Child), give my solemn promise to remember that you love me, no matter what. I promise to remember, even when I am angry, that you want what is best for me. I promise to take care of myself, especially in your absence. I know my health and happiness is vastly important to you.
Because I know these things to be true, I promise to tell you if any person, no matter who that person is . . .
- Hits me, kicks me, burns me or hurts my body in any way.
- Touches me in a way that makes me feel uncomfortable.
- Asks or tells me to touch their body in a way that makes me uncomfortable.
- Shows me their private body parts
- Threatens me with embarrassment or violence.
- Gives me presents.
- Asks me to lie.
- Wants me to do something I am not allowed to do.
- Tells me to keep something a secret that is bad or makes me uncomfortable.
In return . . .
I, _____________________________ (Adult), give you my solemn promise that, no matter what happens, I will always love you. I promise to value your health and happiness above all. And know I will always try to protect you.
I know, in life, bad things may happen to you and may cause you pain. This is part of life. But know there is nothing that can happen to you that will ever change my love for you.
Because I know these things to be true, I promise you if you tell me that someone, no matter who that person is, did any of the things listed above I will . . .
- Believe you.
- Love you.
- Support you.
- Not blame you.
- Not be angry with you.
- Protect you from further abuse.
- Take appropriate action.
Together, on this ______ (Day) of ______________________ (Month) of the year ________, we, ___________________________ (Adult) and ___________________________ (Child), agree to trust each other through whatever happens in life. We promise to fulfill the vows we have made to each other on this day.
Should the day come when of us should break our vow, then it becomes the duty of the other to remember the great love we hold and . . .
I, ___________________________ (Child) promise to tell as many other people as needed until an adult takes actions to protect me. This includes calling the police. It is important for me to do what is needed to do to stop the abuse. This is my pledge to you.
I, ___________________________ (Adult) promise to take your words to an impartial person in authority and ask for their help and advice. Then, I promise to follow their advice. This is my pledge to you.
This is our contract of love.
RENEW IT EVERY YEAR
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