One of my missions is to celebrate organizations who are dedicated to creating Safe, Stable and Nurturing Relationships for children and their families. Let me introduce you to KIDPOWER USA. Below are 3 of the top 30 skills your children can learn to teach them about their right to boundaries and the ability to say no. KIDPOWER USA teaches us about protecting child safety at all levels of society.
Top 3 Safety Skills
DOING RIGHT BY YOUR KIDS
Below are 3 of the 30 Personal safety skills for adults to share with the children in their lives. Doing Right by Our KidsTM is an official partner of Kidpower Teenpower Fullpower International’s One Million Safer Kids Campaign. For more information visit www.Kidpower.org and www.DoingRightByOurKids.com
You can study these skills one each day for a month, or Share A Skill With A Child at your own pace. You may also teach these skills to your community. We would love to hear from you about how you are using the Kidpower Skill-A-Day materials so we can add your kids to the One Million Safer Kids count. Please email us firstname.lastname@example.org with questions, suggestions, or stories to tell us about your use of these skills.The Kidpower Skill-A-Day Challenge is authored by Irene vander Zande and the Kidpower Team, and presented here in partnership with www.DoingRightByOurKids.com a new resource for protecting child safety at all levels of society, co-created by Irene van der Zande and Dr. Amy Tiemann.
Build Confidence: Kidpower Skill #1
Start the Kidpower Challenge by giving at least one child in your life a real compliment. Taking in kindness builds confidence and belief in yourself, and this is a powerful safety tool. Teach a child to take in a compliment by coaching him to put both hands on his heart and say “Thank you!”
To be truly meaningful and sincere, a compliment must be factual, contain NO hint of criticism, be relevant to the child, and be age-appropriate. Find a compliment about being powerful rather than just about how a child looks or what she or he is wearing wearing. Remember that there are many kinds of power.
Taking in compliments helps children internalize positive messages and keep them in their hearts. Kidpower’s Heart Power Safety Sign also helps kids and adults remember to protect their hearts – and to use their hearts to be kind to others.
Stay Calm: Kidpower Skill #2
Both kids and adults can think more clearly and make wiser choices to solve problems if they are calm and in control of their feelings and actions – and kids learn better when their adults are calm. Practice how to use Calm Down Power by making it a fun game. Together with a child, push the palms of your hands together,
straighten your back, wriggle your toes, and take a deep breath and let it out slowly. Look at or notice something that makes you feel good. Take another slow, deep breath.Ask the child to tell you what it means to her or him to feel calm – and talk about what this feeling is like for you. You can add to the practice by having the child pretend to be upset and shout, “HEY” or “OUCH!” And then go through the Stay Calm Down practice.
Identify Boundaries: Kidpower Skill #3
Understanding what boundaries are is an essential safety skill. A boundary is like a fence. It sets a limit. Personal boundaries are limits between people.Brainstorm with a child three examples of boundaries you can see or touch such as lines on a sports field, crosswalks, walls, etc.Now brainstorm three examples of personal boundaries you can not see but you can feel inside, especially when they are crossed. For example, you might be having fun tickling but then suddenly it is not fun anymore and you want to stop. You might be having fun joking but then someone says something that hurts your feelings. That feeling of “Hey, that’s not fun!” is a signal you feel inside of your personal boundary being crossed. Teaching children what boundaries are and what it feels like when they are crossed helps them to set boundaries more effectively to stop bullying and abuse.