You Are Not Alone

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THE PERIOD 0F PURPLE CRYING

What is the Period of PURPLE Crying?

Marilyn Barr, Founder/Former Executive Director, NCSBS

The Period of PURPLE Crying is a new way to help parents understand this time in their baby’s life, which is a normal part of every infant’s development. It is confusing and concerning to be told your baby “has colic” because it sounds like it is an illness or a condition that is abnormal. When the baby is given medication to treat symptoms of colic, it reinforces the idea that there is something wrong with the baby, when in fact, the baby is going through a very normal developmental phase. That is why we prefer to refer to this time as the Period of PURPLE Crying. This is not because the baby turns purple while crying. The acronym is a meaningful and memorable way to describe what parents and their babies are going through.

The Period of PURPLE Crying begins at about 2 weeks of age and continues until about 3-4 months of age. There are other common characteristics of this phase, or period, which are better described by the acronym PURPLE. All babies go through this period. It is during this time that some babies can cry a lot and some far less, but they all go through it.

The acronym PURPLE is used to describe specific characteristics of an infant’s crying during this phase and let parents and caregivers know that what they are experiencing is indeed normal and, although frustrating, is simply a phase in their child’s development that will pass. The word Period is important because it tells parents that it is only temporary and will come to an end.

PURPLE Acronym

Parents, after learning about Period of PURPLE Crying have said, “Finally they have called it something that describes what we are going through. This word colic was hard to get a handle on.”

Imagine all of the other things new parents have yet to hear of or learn about.  These facts can possibly save a child’s life by the simple fact that the parent knows what is going on and that it is not their fault.  Supporting new parents sounds like the neighborly thing to do, don’t you think?

There is truth in the statement that “IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD.”

RANDA FOX

A MILLION MILES LED ASTRAY

I wrote this poem a year or so ago.
It is for every person who has experienced any kind of child abuse and trauma.
You are not alone.

I call it

A Million Miles Led Astray

I sit here by myself in my home with my puppy content but not.

And my mind is a million miles led astray.   Didn’t say bye, just left.

 

Walking wounded still in pain as we try desperately not to go insane.

Inner child, little girl sweet little boy, you are more brave than if you had gone to war.

 

And you did survive even though you aren’t sure –

you lived it and breathed it and you won’t have to go through that pain anymore.

 

And here we all are, millions and millions of us,

wondering what in the hell just happened and why am I here in this adult body, still filled with fear.

 

If I know nothing else in this crazy world,

I know that those who are survivors are the Strength, not the Pain.

We are the Light, not the Dark. We are the Innocents, playing our harp.

So come on gorgeous angels, dry your tears.

 

We are all finally together just when we thought the end was near.

And now our lives are just beginning because we are setting ourselves free.

We’ve earned it, we deserve it, it is our right to be.

                                                                                                                                                                                                      ~ Randa Fox

Support Group for Adult Survivors of Child Abuse

SUPPORT GROUP FOR ADULT SURVIVORS OF CHILD ABUSE

Not On Our Watch America Foundation envisions bringing together the over 42 MILLION adults in the U.S. who have survived Child Abuse.

WE HAVE BEEN SILENT FAR TOO LONG.  

Preventing Child Abuse needs a VOICE.

OUR VOICE.

Come join us every other Tuesday from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m., on this healing journey, in a safe, stable and nurturing environment.

Our next meeting will be Tuesday, October 4, 2016.

I AM ONE 

WE ARE ONE

Randa Fox @ 713-447-0489

Isn’t it time to begin your healing journey?

You can also connect with me on my phone, Facebook, LinkedIn, on this website or by email @ randafoxnoow@gmail.com.

“FATE WHISPERS TO THE WARRIOR.

YOU CANNOT SURVIVE THE STORM.

AND THE WARRIOR WHISPERS TO FATE,

 I AM THE STORM.”

*Below is an excerpt from the SURVIVOR TO THRIVER Manual and Workbook for adult survivors of child abuse who want to move on with life sponsored by The Norma J Morris Center, creator of the ASCA program, a 501C3

*STEP ONE

I am in a breakthrough crisis, having gained some sense of my abuse.

 “For many survivors, this first step represents the first sign that their past has caught up with them. Survivors at this point often experience a “breakthrough crisis”: something happens to release a flood of old memories, feelings and even physical sensations of the abuse. Although this crisis does not necessarily destabilize all survivors, for many it can be the most harrowing time in recovery, and it often provides the impetus to finally face the past.

 

These are important times in our lives, and the lives of our children, and what we as a community do over the next 40 years will make the difference in millions of lives.

~ Randa Fox

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